Julian was just like most other 14 year old boys — energetic, fun loving and sports-minded. Summer was about to end, and the only thing on his mind was making the football team. He dreaded school, but was willing to do anything that would get him on the field again. Julian did not want to re-experience last year: athletically he was on top of the world… starting in football, basketball, and baseball; academically, the world was on top of him…beleaguered with low grades, discipline problems, and missing homework assignments. Because of the latter, the school stopped him from stepping foot on the field of dreams and told him to study harder.
For Julian, it was the worst of both worlds.
Just when he thought things could not get any worse, they did. His parents enrolled him in a popular motivational tutorial program, which promised better study skills, better organizational skills and better grades. Although he didn’t like it, this was his ticket to the athletic field. Yet after six long months, his grades had still not improved, and he was again unable to play sports. Discouraged and defeated, his confidence shrunk even further. Julian went from someone who made academic mistakes, to feeling like he was a mistake.
“Something has to give,” his parents told the ADHD Performance Clinic (APC) during the intake meeting. “We are losing him. We have tried everything, and don’t have a clue on how to help our son.”
Upon assessing him, we realized Julian did not have a motivational, organizational, or a study problem; he had an attention deficit hyperactive disorder, ADHD. Following his diagnosis, APC put together a treatment plan that addressed both his short-term and long-term needs. To meet Julian’s short-term attention needs a physician prescribed medications to help him focus, and for his long-term attention needs we placed him on an educationally proven computer-based program for children with attention problems. We also included parent training to reinforce behavioral changes. In all, Julian began to better understand how ADHD was impacting his life, learned how to better manage the challenges related to the disorder, and developed his ability to focus.
Twelve months later, Julian has taken control of his life and is off medications – and is doing well academically and athletically. This season his parents will proudly sit in the stands watching him play in his first high-school football game of the season.
Here are a few steps APC recommends you take to help your son or daughter tackle ADHD.
1. Become Your Child’s “Parent Advocate.”
You must learn as much about ADHD as possible. Period! It is critically important to understand the challenges your child may face and the resources available. Know the teachers, the treatment team, and the law. I recommend the following book to any would-be parent advocate, Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents, by Russell A. Barkley, PhD.
2. Put an Interdisciplinary “Treatment Team” in Place.
Before school starts, connect with your psychologist, physician, nutritionist, neuro-psychologist, and/or coach to plan for the upcoming year. Have them evaluate your child’s learning style, neurological functioning, and strengths and limitations. If possible, select teachers that play to your child’s strengths. Also, talk to your providers about proper nutrition and computer-based attention training programs. While medications help manage the symptoms in the short-term, sound nutrition and proven computer based attention training programs provide long-term solutions that permanently improve attention and teach skills necessary for success in the classroom, at work and with friends.
3. Develop a Schedule, and Strive for Consistency and Structure.
Beginning a week or two before school starts, re-adjust bed and wake-up times. With young elementary children, eliminate the fear of the unknown by introducing them to their new school, teacher and bus schedule before the first day. Kids with ADHD function much better if they know what to expect and experience few surprises. Let your child get comfortable with the new supplies, organizational and/or attention training systems they will be using this year.
4. Make Meaningful Behavioral Changes.
As you well know, children with ADHD are frequently impulsive and often seek immediate gratification. Accordingly, they tend to do best when given more immediate and frequent feedback and consequences. You might also consider using incentives before punishment, and striving for consistency. Don’t personalize your child’s problems or disorder. Inattentive and impulsive behaviors are common symptoms of ADHD, which experts conservatively estimate affect between 5 to 7 percent of school age children.
5. Be Positive!
Your child’s biggest liability may be their thoughts rather than their reality. Beliefs determine behaviors. If your child approaches the new school year with the fear that they are about to live out their worst nightmare, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Be wise, be optimistic, and be loving. If you do not believe in them…why should they believe in themselves? I know it can be frustrating, but let your child know that whatever the school year may hold, “we’ll get through it no matter what.” Let him know that you are in his corner… fighting with him, cheering for him and proud of him. Also, discover and teach him about some of the many extremely successful adults with ADHD – see www.SchwabLearning.org for some examples.
6. Celebrate Every Success!
Our kids will hear plenty about their flaws and their failures… so make sure you celebrate their successes, even small ones.
7. Last, But Not Least of All, Take Care of Yourself.
Contact www.chadd.org, and join a support group. Also, pursue a hobby or some other personal passion you may have dropped over
At APC, we have found ADHD doesn’t have to be a struggle! These seven steps will equip you to begin to discover and cultivate your child’s creativity and drive so that they successfully tackle ADHD, and maximize their personal potential on and off the field.
For more information contact us at www.ADHDPC.com, or 301.588.4600. Shane Perrault is the Principal Psychologist at the ADHD Performance Clinic, and the only certified Play Attention provider in the Virginia, Maryland, Washington, D.C. area.
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These are very good tips. As a teacher, I recommend every parent of an ADHD child become well acquainted with their child’s teachers and that they be an ever present entity at their child’s school. Also, cut the junk food out of your child’s diet! All sugar, chips, cookies and candy can aggravate a child’s ADHD symptoms. Give your child healthy food choices at home and teach them to make healthy choices at school.
Parental-watch is a good place to start when learning how to parent in the digital age. WebMD is also a great site to help with health needs.
Awesome article. Thanks!
I have been dealing with my sons ADHD for about three weeks, tommorrow he will start private school because I could no longer deal with the public school system just tryin to push him off as Learning Disabled, but yet he manages to maintain a C average in regular classes. He also hates taken the medicine and I feel as if I am forcing medicine on him, I really like the article because it gives me something to look forward to…. knowing that someday he can stop takin the medicine.
Thank you for your help!
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