Taking Ya Folx (AKA Signifcant Other) to Homecoming when they didn’t’ go there! Whew! This is always a sticky situation. To take, or not to take? That is the question! This is how I feel about taking My Folx to Homecoming @ HU (and I’m not talkin’ about Mom and Dad). You have to be VERY secure in your relationship and they have to know how to play the back. It’s almost like you’re the celebrity and they are your non-famous S.O. You are huggin’ and posin’ (for pictures) with so many people. Steppin’ with your frat or sorority that your SO certainly can get pushed to the side. If they are the type that needs lots of hand-holding, then definitely HU (my alma mater) homecoming is NOT the place for them. It’s hectic, hot, huggy, kissy, screamy and maybe you look a little too long at a past (coulda, shoulda, woulda-been) love. Maybe that guy/girl that hugged you a little too tight or too long, you don’t introduce to your SO and it’s not because you don’t want to…maybe it’s legitimately because you don’t know the other person’s name. But that sounds like a lame excuese, huh?
Also..(from SO) what’s up with you giving every dude you know you cell number??? (YOU) Oh…that’s so they can call me later and let me know how WE are going to get into the party. God forbid that fool takes it too far and is contacting you AFTER homecoming is over. Your poor SO is always draggin’ one step behind you and if you’re not careful, they can look less like your SO and more like a lost puppy and probably feel that way too.
Me and Hubby have been going to HU HC together since we were engaged to be married (2003). I gave him the “birds and the bees” talk before we stepped foot on campus and it went a little something like this.
Me: OK…this is a BIG step you’re taking here. Going to your first HU HC with someone who actually attened HU is big. Are you ready?
Hubby (In his normal swagger): Girl, I’ve been to HU HC’s before all the time, this ain’t no biggie for me!
Me (in slower ADULT voice): OK, but now you’re with me and as we stroll across the yard, there will be several attempts to ask for my hand in marriage. Though I will turn them all down, on some I may pause a little. Will you be OK with those pauses?
Hubby (in a not so sure voice): What chu mean PAUSE?
Me (moving on): Forget that. So there will be lots of hugs, maybe some cheek kisses and lots of screaming when I see people I haven’t seen in a long time. Could be guys. Could be girls. In some cases, I may forget to grab your hand and bring you along as I sprint across the yard in my stilletos. You WILL have your cell phone in case you get lost, right?
Hubby: What chu mean LOST?
Me: OK…so the point is…keep up with me at all times. There will be a lot going on. So, let’s go over this again. Do you have the following…..cell phone? Bus fare to get you back home in case I forget and leave you? My itinerary in case you wanna link up with me later that night?
Hubby: What chu mean “IN CASE”?
Me (once again in slow parent voice): OK. Are you sure you still wanna go? This is a big step in our relationship. It’s the equivalent of a guy taking a girl to a wedding of one of his CLOSE relatives. Let me know if you don’t wanna go (secretly hoping he says no).
Hubby: Nah…I think I can handle it
Me (in disbelieving voice): OooooooKkkkkk.
So far…he’s handled it very well. We’ve been 3 years out of 6 on the yard.
I’d be interested to hear your stories of how you and your SO have handled any HBCU homecoming.