First let me start off by saying that I believe with my mind, body, soul and lips that kissing is an art. With that being said, there are a few places that a correctly placed kiss can just make me wanna throw my panties on the proverbial stage. It’s easy to remember and not hard to forget. If you listen very closely, you’ll get her panties wet. Try not to overdo it, her heart will flutter and skip. As you move slowly from her lips to her hips to her fingertips.
So now that I’ve channeled Langston Hughes (don’t laugh)…I’mma get back to what I was sayin’. I’ve had several kisses that are truly memorable and have shaped my perspective on kissing done right. So consider this, Kissing for Dummies. :o)
Now….even Howard Hewitt (in his song from the late 80’s “Show Me”), talked about the virtues of caressing “her fingertips”. The main thing is not to rush, not to be insistent….to be able to pull her to you without even touching her. So enough chat…where do you start? The forehead, the eyes, even lightly on the cheek are all well and good. But a soft, warm, moist (not wet and sloppy) kiss on the lips that lingers and gently, but not insistenly slides from side to side will make her fall into your arms. Now onto phase II….
Move back, you don’t want to take it to fast.
Look at her eyes, but bring her fingertips up to your mouth and ever so gently kiss them. Don’t suck them like blow pops, if you want some candy, stop by the local bodega and pick up some. Some women might like that sort of action, but unless she tells you that, then don’t. Lightly brush her fingertips with your lips and gently kiss them. Another version…say you guys are walking down the street….it’s a chilly night and you softly bring her hand up to your lips and gently place a kiss on her fingers. It’s doesn’t mean you want something, it just tells her that there’s no place you’d rather be. Your lips are soft and chilly…her hands also…but the touch of your lips feels warm. Now fellas, I don’t recommend doing this if you have not done proper lip maintenance. That means constant chapstick (or moisturizer of your choice) usage. Cuz nothin’ makes a woman madder than somebody tryna make moves with some crusty lips. I recommend keeping a supply of Chapstick, Blistex, or just a stick of Cocoa Butter works too and it also smells like chocolate which might help her go there. :o)
Finally, the caress of her hips should be strong, but not forceful. You don’t want her to think she’s at a Lil Wayne concert and slow grindin’ with a thug. It’s almost as if you think of dancing. When the man leads, his hand is in the small of her back leading the woman through the dance, and he is only gently forceful with slight pressure applied here and there. Imagine your lady’s hips, the curve (or not) of them. The movement of them as she “rides”. Imagine that and if you don’t wanna let it go…then rub your hands up and down her hips as you stand behind her and place light kisses on the back of her ears, neck, etc. If she presses her hips back into you…then you know that the ball is in your court. Otherwise….just enjoy the close contact and move to the music even if it’s all in your head. At this point, you’re just showing appreciation for her curves.
So remember, when you touch, make it soft and strong, but never forceful or insistent….and she will fall, lips, hips, fingertips and all right where you want her to be.