I got all mushy on y’all last week, so this week I’m back again hittin’ hard and makin’ you think. As I mentioned to one of my loyal readers (he knows who he is), if you feel convicted by what I’m saying to you, then that’s OK as long as you do something about it (me included). I’m not trying to make anyone feel bad about themselves…I’m just trying to give a little perspective to this thing we call love. This article serves as a cautionary tale. The question I pose today is:
Why do we treat our #1 Draft Picks, dare I say FRANCHISE PLAYERS, like they are the 6th man?
Give me your open mind and I will expand on this thought.
You’re married or dating in what he/she believes is a monogamous relationship. Your signifcant other (SO) is a person found to be very attractive to the opposite sex. You OF COURSE find your mate to be very attractive and deep down in your heart of hearts, you believe that you love them.
FAST FWD: You find yourself finding someone else attractive. (So far, no problem, right). Well then you start to flirt with said attraction and pretty soon, the flirtation is getting hot and heavy (Still no problem, but yellow lights are flashing). Finally, you decide to see where all this flirtation can really take you, and you end up in a very compromising situation that your aforementioned significant other would not approve of. (RED LIGHT! RED LIGHT! RED LIGHT!) Anywho….instead of just saying, oops, I got a little carried away and sweeping the stupidity under the rug, you start to carry on a (GASP) relationship with this person.
SIDEBAR: Now let’s just expand on the term relationship. A relationship is defined as –
|1.||a connection, association, or involvement.|
|2.||connection between persons by blood or marriage.|
|3.||an emotional or other connection between people.|
|4.||a sexual involvement; affair|
So here’s where guys screw up. They all the way down at #4 thinking that if there is no SEX involved, then it’s not really a relationship or an affair. So let’s go back to #1…a connection, #2 (it ain’t with your sister or brother, so we can skip that one) and #3 an emotional connection between two people. So affairs of the heart and mind can occur without the physical ever taking place. So if you find yourself looking forward to seeing the person, sharing things with them that you can’t or don’t share with your SO AND your SO doesn’t know about it, then guess what, it’s a relationship and maybe (GASP!!!) and affair.
(Now back to our story, already in progress)
So….you find yourself going out of town on trips with this person on made up business trips (or if they work with you, maybe they are legitimately going out of town on the same business trip…but not minding your business), calling them all the time, movies, lunch, dinner, maybe a mid-day sneak to the hotel, etc. All the while knowing that if your #1 Draft Pick ever got wind of this ellicit behavior, you’d be up shit’s creek without a paddle.
This cautionary tale is NOT for those who A) Already have one foot out the door and just have not left the person yet, B) No longer love their significant other and are just in it for the kids, money, sex, don’t have nothin’ better to do, etc. C) Are just a serial cheater and can never be stopped or D) All of the above or anything else you’d like to add.
This tale is for those who need to answer the question, can your team make it to the NBA Championships without your #1 Draft Pick and is your substitute all that you think he/she is when he/she has to deal with ALL your crap on a regular basis (and we all got crap)? Ladies, we know we be PMS’in. Men, you get moody too and don’t pick up your socks and draws. But the bottom line is…on a 24-7 basis…we all got some shyt with us.
Anyone can shower you with compliments, gifts, attention etc. when they only have to deal with you 2 hours out of every day (if that). You are the most gorgeous, sexy person to somebody in jail even if you are a 300 lb porker. It’s because they are in jail (and jail here could be literal or figurative) and they will tell you want you want to hear to get what they want. It’s the same thing when you’re looking at your neighbor’s grass….does it look greener? Do you know that they have to cut it twice a week (high maint) and put down fertilzer twice a year and they are one rain shower away from having the brownest lawn you’ve ever seen (issues….that we all have, right). Just another way to say that they grass MAY seem greener until you have to maintain it on a full time basis.
So I leave you with this. Instead of spending all that energy trying to woo the TRUE 6th man to your NBA All-Star squad, expend that energy keeping your #1 Draft Pick happy. He/She may find that they look better in another teams colors (read: sheets). Maybe they are already looking to see what other teams can offer and how to make a quiet exit…..and then how would you feel? Think about that one now, because as humans, we don’t tend to think about it until the well’s run dry.
Here’s to making good draft decisions and getting that championship ring! Good luck, I’m pulling for you! If you do a good job, you just might get …….
Next article tentatively titled…”Shhhhhh….I gotta get this, it’s my [fill in the blank with what you call your significant other] calling!”