The Oxymoron of “The Lovers Quarrel”

And were an epitaph to be my story

I’d have a short one ready for my own.
I would have written of me on my stone:
I had a lover’s quarrel with the world.
                     Robert Frost (1874-1963)



Entry #2 in the Playa’s Handbook

This is a subject that I could keep going forever and ever until folx get the point.  As I’ve been told before, “You could write a book”.  So let’s get right to it!

Rule #6 Don’t START doing what you can’t (afford to) keep up.


Are You Getting Lazy About Finding Love?

Are you single, but want to make a connection?  Ask yourself how much effort you’re putting into finding a date.  If you were new to an area and you got sick, wouldn’t you put out the feelers to find a new doctor?  What if you were looking to sell your house?  Wouldn’t you put the word out on the street to get potential buyers?  So then why are we so lackadasical about finding love?  Love is not going to find us and there are too many ways to find love to just sit back and HOPE.  I know we’re riding the Obama’s HOPE wave, but even in his case, if you did nothing…even HOPE may not have kept him alive.

So what are the options?


Life on the Color Line (Why not go white?)

Before I begin, let me share some statistics

  • “…black men are seven times more likely than white men to be incarcerated and twice as likely to be unemployed.”  – USA Today
  • “…American black women are among the least likely to marry.”
  • In 2004, 26.5% of black males ages 18 to 24 were enrolled in college versus 36.5% of black women that age…” American Council on Education
  • Nearly three quarters of the 403,000 black-white couples in 2006 involved black husbands.
  • According to USA Today, in America 6% of marriages are interracial; in 1970, it was less than 1%.
  • A Gallup Poll on interracial dating in June 2005 reported that 95% of 18- to 29-year-olds approve of blacks and whites dating. About 60% of that age group said they have dated someone of a different race.
  • 22 percent of Asian-American women have a non-Asian husband while only nine percent of Asian husbands have non-Asian wives
  • Currently, six percent of black husbands are in an interracial marriage, compared to only two percent of black wives.
  • Fourteen percent of black men who are cohabiting without marriage have a white woman living with them (Sidebar: DANG!  They can even get them to move in with them!)
  • Slightly less than 18 percent of Hispanic wives are wed to non-Hispanics husbands, and a little over 15 percent of Hispanic husbands have non-Hispanic wives (Sidebar: Probably white).
  • 86 percent of black-asian couples consisted of a black husband and an Asian wife.
  • The higher the social status of the black woman the less likely she is to ever marry.

Lips, Hips & Fingertips

First let me start off by saying that I believe with my mind, body, soul and lips that kissing is an art.  With that being said, there are a few places that a correctly placed kiss can just make me wanna throw my panties on the proverbial stage.  It’s easy to remember and not hard to forget.  If you listen very closely, you’ll get her panties wet.  Try not to overdo it, her heart will flutter and skip.  As you move slowly from her lips to her hips to her fingertips.


Velvet-Covered Diamonds

Black women tend to be thought of as angry, hard, feisty, no-nonsense, loud, independent (to a fault), etc.  But they are also thought known to be lovers, mothers, supporters of communities and families, soft, warm, plate fixers, boo-boo-kissers, voluptuous, colorful and phenomenal.   Something that came to me as I was thinking about this topic was why do we treat people at work sometimes better than we treat our own spouse or significant other at home? 


[Video] Bernie Mac… So you’ll never cry again.


Feeling Delicious

Have you ever had someone touch you in such a way that you felt….lighter, more relaxed, sexy and even delicious? I was a “test dummy” for a friend of mine who was receiving his massage license and he need to practice to get his hands used to massaging for several minutes (up to an hour at a time). I was only too happy to oblige. He wanted to do me “right”…just like a customer so that I could get the full experience.

So here’s the story….