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Treat your #1 Draft Pick Like Your Franchise Player

I got all mushy on y’all last week, so this week I’m back again hittin’ hard and makin’ you think. As I mentioned to one of my loyal readers (he knows who he is), if you feel convicted by what I’m saying to you, then that’s OK as long as you do something about it (me included). I’m not trying to make anyone feel bad about themselves…I’m just trying to give a little perspective to this thing we call love. This article serves as a cautionary tale. The question I pose today is:

Why do we treat our #1 Draft Picks, dare I say FRANCHISE PLAYERS, like they are the 6th man?

Give me your open mind and I will expand on this thought.

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Finding it hard to BELIEVE?

Lyrics from “Believe” by Raheem Devaughn

With affection like a dreamer
with patience and understanding
like a teacher with a student, vice versa
promise not to hurt you, not to leave
not to lie, not to cheat, not to fuss
not to stress, like the rest in your past

Believe me I ain’t like most men
I ain’t like them others
you then dealt with in the past
just have some faith
that is all I ask, believe in me

“Believe”, is one of those “throw ya panties on the stage” type of slow jams. I mean it makes you wanna believe. It makes you wanna hold on to the fairytale that this time it will be different. Who hasn’t heard that before? What makes us lack faith? To not believe? I am a strong believer in not asking other folx to carry our bags. Remember Erykah Badu told us that we were gonna “miss our bus” cuz we had too much stuff. I’m also a firm believer in trusting each person on his merits. What makes us judge someone on the actions (merits) of others? What makes us ask the new guy to carry the other guy(s) bags.

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Foreplay Begins in the Morning

Why is it that after the courting phase is over most men (your husband included) grope you like they are in a bar and are three sheets to the wind while you’re trying to whip up dinner, talk on the phone and get the kids a bath (all at the same time). Is this their idea of romance and seduction? Now while you certainly appreciate their attraction to you and the fact that “they can’t keep their hands off you”. Do they really believe your MIND is in a sexy place?

What I would like to put on the table is in order to have the intimacy you’d like, you must know that….Foreplay Begins in the Morning.

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Keeping the FIE-YAH in Your Relationships!

If you’re married, you know that there is alot of work that goes into keeping the relationship on Fie-YAH! OK…so let’s start with number one ….

Communicate!

Communicate!

Communicate!

OK. What do I mean by Communicate? Do you KNOW what your mate thinks is hot? Do you know what they think is hot about you? Do you know what gets them hot? Do you know what they see in other people that they find appealing? Well you may think you know, but you MIGHT have no idea. So talk about it. Be open….and go with it. My husband and I can go to a club and talk about the women that he finds attractive. And he will tell me why. Usually we use that information/image for our own “benefit” later on that night….but that’s TMI I’m sure. So back to you…..does your sig other like movies? Watch one with him. Does he like erotic fiction? Read a story to each other. Try something new. You neva know….you might like it.